Your models of reality—how to dress, what success is and isn’t, whom to marry—control how you think about your life and the world, and play a large part in creating the life you live. You inherit your original models from your parents and the culture you grew up in. Left unexamined, they will create a life not wholly your own. To take control and change your life to better suit what you want it to be, you need to replace your inherited models with new ones. To use a computer

What you should be doing can get in the way of what you could be doing, and steal the joy from what you are doing. These shoulds come from the unquestioned but relative truths passed from generation to generation. Unlike objective truths such as ‘fire burns and knives cut’, relative truths such as ‘you must get a degree, a good job, then marry and have kids’, come from the culture, religion and the society we live and exist in. Questioning all your shoulds isn’t required to l